I am referring back to MrShadow's last post here and wondering about the use of the term sexual love.
I have long held to the point of view that although sex is an integral part of any loving relationship, sex itself is a physical side to what is an emotional response.
Many people (men especially) are quite at ease with having casual sex with partners they have no real feeling for. I don't see how this kind of interaction can be referred to as love. A more appropriate term would seem to be lust.
Perhaps I am simply too conservative in nature but I just don't understand sex without deep emotional love. Even when I entered into my current triad relationship I had to get used to the idea of being physically intimate with someone who was not my wife. It took quite a while before I could do so, even though there was already a strong emotional bond between us.
The term soul mates is bandied around a lot but I honestly believe I have found soul mates in both the women I love. They were initially the same life force as they come from just one sperm and one egg that split in two after a week or so. Perhaps that explains why things worked out the way they did for us but one thing I have found out is that nothing in the world compares to the experience of love that comes from the soul. Everything in life is so much better when you find this kind of relationship. The fact that I was lucky enough to find and marry one woman who I could share this with is amazing enough but now finding a second partner who I share the same bond with is almost like living in a fairy tale.
