Where to start? My name is Johoanna and I'm 37 and single. I've had a big "spiritual" awakening this year. I grew up in the Christian church and left just a couple of years ago. For me, leaving was the best thing I ever did. Now I feel free to be me, to be who I was created to be. I still believe in God, but Goddess as well. I've been studying pagan religions this year and feel more connected to Mother Earth than I ever have.
So what's all this got to do with being poly? Well, it means I'm now free to express myself fully and freely. I do believe I am poly. I've only ever been in monogomous relationships. This is a big step for me, even admitting my "polyness". Now, how to meet like-minded people in this town? Orange (NSW) tends live in the 50's when it comes to sexuallity. Is it any wonder I want to leave? I know too many people in this town, most of them are Christian. Being openingly pagan in this town is bad enough (which I'm not, I'm still firmly in the broom closet, only a couple of close friends know). Even now at home I have to be careful. I'm currently sharing with an ex-boyfriend (long story, if you want to know the details please ask otherwise I'll leave them out).
I'm currently planning to move away from Orange. I certainly don't want to go back to Sydney or any other major centre. I'm a country girl and need to be in the country. I feel grounded and at peace with the world out here. I'll be going up to Nimin early next year for a few weeks camping. If I like it I'll stay. If I get any other offers I'll investigate those as well.
What am I looking for in a relationship? I'm actually not sure. Like I said, I'm very new to all this. I know I want to be in a relationship where I'm loved and respected, whether that's with one or more people...who knows? Am I bi or straight? I think you could class me as bi-curious. There. I said it. Now I have to remember that my sexuallity is not a dirty thing like is taught in the church. I am who I am and I need to accept and be proud of that.
Anyway, enough rambling for today.
Yes it is a big decision on who and how we tell others.We have moved here from Canberra with its liberal views and like minded people.
As you can see by our blog we are very new to poly and would love to get together with other like minded people in the area and as you have stated how do we do it is our biggest hurdle
So if you are still in town let us know if you would like to meet for a chat with us we have questions and by the sound of it you do to(not that we would have many answers) but just to be able express ourselves would be terrific
G&L
Welcome!
We hope you manage to find what you're looking for. As would be expected, most of the Poly groups are centered on the major metropolitan areas (Sydney, Melbourne and Brisbane in particular). Even living on the Central Coast (about 45 minutes from Sydney), we are yet to find any support groups (apart from a local Swingers group). Having said that, we've been paying more attention to people were already of interest to us rather than seeking out other Poly people near us. However, now we've both been rejected by those people, we will start looking.
Considering this, you might want to consider moving somewhere like the Central Coast. It's close to a major city with a (rather) large Poly community but is still far enough away that it's still got a country-ish feel. It's also a lot quicker to get away to the 'real' country when you need to. There seems to be more active Poly groups in Melbourne though.
Anyway, all the best on your journey - it sounds like you've alreaady made one of the hardest steps.
Cheers
Shadow