An informative guide to polyamory resources in Australia, including an introduction to polyamory, contact information for poly-friendly health professionals, annotated guides to websites and email lists, a calendar of local and national events, and more.
We also have thoughtful and fascinating writers contributing blogs and articles about all things poly.
- The poly community is diverse:
We could be rural, inner-city urban or suburban, straight or gay, bi or asexual, cis- or trans-gendered. We could be agnostic, atheist, Christian, wiccan, Buddhist, pagan or Mormon, to name but a few. We could be into polyfidelity, swinging, bdsm, polygamy, kink, feminism or plain vanilla sex on flanellette sheets. We could be dressed as daggy geeks, conservative businesses suits, or fetish fashionistas who sport a mean corset. Our common goal is that of ethical, multiple, intimate relationships and respect for our incredible, wonderful, stimulating diversity.
- The poly community is growing:
Several hundred people form the wider Australian poly community. Many of us attend local meetups, discussion groups and other face-to-face events on a regular basis. Even more of us commune regularly online through nation-wide email lists and forums. There are thriving poly groups in NSW, VIC, SA and WA, and more groups are developing all the time.
Well here we are, once again exploring the possibilties that poly can bring to enhance and deepen our relationship. When we first met we both had a number of lovers we were in relationship with, and we thought 'well here is another to be part of our life'....that was 6 years ago.
After meeting, supprisingly it became clear to us both, that monogamy was the path for us in the short term. Now we have two kids under 5, a house in the burbs on the Northern Beaches and a desire to create experiences and relationships that lie outside the normal parameters of suburban living.
Having taken the courageous step to acknowledge our appetites and desires outside of each other, and been through the talking and negotiating phase. We now are moving towards creating this new reality. We are looking to connect with another couple and or individuals, who are open to exporing possibilties with us.
Honest, open and clear communication is important for great relationships and we want to meet with others who want to live this too.
We also are looking forward to hanging out and connecting socially with members of the community, with like minded people, who understand where we are coming from and accept our desire to create something diferent in our relationships.
Steve & Jo
Hi all! Love that I'd found this site. I'm a 23 year old, female who currently lives on the Far North Coast of NSW. I am a single mother to a divine 18 month old little girl and I work as a nutritionist. I enjoy being fit and healthy, love to cook, run and swim.
I was raised a Mormon, spent a lot of time living in Utah as a child and saw families practice Polygamy happily. I always liked that idea of living as a community almost!
I'd love to get to know a Polyamory couple/family who are looking for another and would like to have children or more children in the future. As I said I'd like to get to know them, become friends and see where it goes!
Hi there we are looking for a third, We are in newcastle and looking for someone to come join us!
We have 3 kids under 7 and would love more!
We would be keen to Meet a a guy or girl to love!
Give us a messaege
Looking for MFM
Hello we are a married couple in Sydney south west. Him 48, Her 38. Just feeling our way into this and am very curious about the lifestyle.
Looking forward to meeting others and hopefully form friendships and more.
Anne & Stewart.
You can call me Ai. I'm a uni student (bachelor of arts ) and a waitress on the weekends. I am kind of fit, still getting into shape though XD I am lucky enough to have two wonderful partners, we are poly-fi. Basically I'm looking for others in poly relashionships or indentify as poly. We will be at the next picnic so hopefully we can meet lots of you XD
Discovered last year that my (female) partner was having an affair with the captain of our CFA brigade that we're both active members of. A bit of a jolt. The issue wasn't her having sex with another man - frankly, and this is a bit embarrassing, I love the thought of her making love to someone else. We've 'swung', but it didn't do much for me. I love to feel a real connection with people that I'm intimate with. But the bit that I did enjoy was watching her with other men and women - ah, divine.
She wants to continue seeing him, and initially said that she would leave me if she couldn't have an open relationship with anyone else that she felt a connection with. She refused to go to counselling initially, but changed her mind after a few months when I said that I wanted to seperate. Since then, we've put the issue on hold while we deal with other parts of life, and she is making a concerted effort to keep me in the relationship.
We'd been through some prior hard moments when I had discovered a few years ago that she had had one-nighters when drunk, and lied about those (and the affair started after a drunken night at a local community event while I was playing Dad at home to our sick 2 year-old daughter). She promised that she would never lie again, and then discovering the affair (it ran for about 6 months before I finally gave into my gut instinct and went looking for proof) knocked the wind out of my sales. That was 8 months ago, and we're moving forward, I think. Didn't help that she didn't use protection when having sex with him - he's in his 60s and apparently things wouldn't work with a love-glove. Not my problem though. Basically taking a risk with my health and life
The other complex element is that he has a partner that he loves (they're both divorced from prior marraiges and have children), but their relationship is not brilliant. His partner doesn't know, and he refuses to tell her under any circumstance - even if I agree to let my partner and him have a relationship. I couldn't lie to my partner like that, and I don't like the idea of becoming a guilty party by effectively condoning that behaviour. I hate the thought that his partner may have to go through the same pain that I did, and still am. I'm just too soft?
He's very much bull-at-gate, takes phone calls when he is in the middle of conversations with his partner (and when he was with mine), very opinionated and right-wing, tends to believe his view on things is the right one. What I'm not. Has had to deal with a lot - he was in Vietnam, divorce, the things you see in the fire brigade, relationship problems etc. And I appreciate that is part of the attraction for my partner - he's different, and that relationship feeds her in a different way, and she loves to reach out and heal people (she's a Naturopath). And she just draws people to her - she is very alive. Sigh.
She says that her relationship with him is like a side-salad, a bonus, and that I'm by far the main course and the dessert. That our relationship is the richest she has ever had. And I believe her. Her best friends have told me that she has told them that I'm the best partner in and out of the bedroom that she has had (and she has had many many dozens of male and female partners in her adult life) - I have no concerns about being out-performed as such.
I love the thought of being able to give her this, but its made hard by the context - them both deceiving me, and then me having to be deceitful as well. If we didn't have a daughter, I'd have saved myself the stress and left the relationship, although I love her so much.
So I'm battling with a lot. I know if I'm honest with myself, that one of my problems is envy - she has a relationship that isn't encumbered by waking up to a daughter several times a night, no chores and other mundane elements of life. Just pure fun. And I'm coming to the thought that I would love to have that too. Trouble is I'm a nice guy, and the women I meet and feel attracted to are always friends first through work, and they're either in committed relationships, or want someone like me for a life partner. Not shared with another woman.
What to do next - how do you meet people that want a connection like that? Maybe that will help me to give my partner what she wants without me feelign like so much of a bastard for being involved in a lie somewhere else.
I'd just like to say hi I'm new here... wanting to meet other like-minded beautiful people in Australia & in Victoria & Country Victoria... and see where the universe & life takes me through all this, so if want to talk & get to know each other I'd love to
