Hi,
My partner and I have been working towards changing our Mono relationship into a Poly relationship for the last 3 years. Moving from Amsterdam to Rockingham (WA) on my own but maintaining the long distance relationship finalized that process. We both have had partners outside our relationship in the last year.
Last December I was in Holland for a holiday and met the (then) partner of my girlfriend. After I flew back to Australia he broke up with her because it was to complicated for him. Last month my girlfriend was visiting me in Australia and met my (then) partner here. She broke up with me after meeting my girlfriend the day she flew back to Holland.
Although me and my girlfriend have been open and honest to our new/extra/second partners about the arrangements we have, its obviously still very hard to actually cope with the situation when confronted.
Maybe I should forget trying to find someone who is not Poly, or at least accustomed to having an open relationship. Its just so painful to have a relationship ended while the love is still there.
I am interested in the experience of others, how have you met your Poly partners?
Also open to become friends with people around Perth!
Iwan.
