An informative guide to polyamory resources in Australia, including an introduction to polyamory, contact information for poly-friendly health professionals, annotated guides to websites and email lists, a calendar of local and national events, and more.
We also have thoughtful and fascinating writers contributing blogs and articles about all things poly.
- The poly community is diverse:
We could be rural, inner-city urban or suburban, straight or gay, bi or asexual, cis- or trans-gendered. We could be agnostic, atheist, Christian, wiccan, Buddhist, pagan or Mormon, to name but a few. We could be into polyfidelity, swinging, bdsm, polygamy, kink, feminism or plain vanilla sex on flanellette sheets. We could be dressed as daggy geeks, conservative businesses suits, or fetish fashionistas who sport a mean corset. Our common goal is that of ethical, multiple, intimate relationships and respect for our incredible, wonderful, stimulating diversity.
- The poly community is growing:
Several hundred people form the wider Australian poly community. Many of us attend local meetups, discussion groups and other face-to-face events on a regular basis. Even more of us commune regularly online through nation-wide email lists and forums. There are thriving poly groups in NSW, VIC, SA and WA, and more groups are developing all the time.
Polygamy ... I don't even think I like the word... or the connotations that are attached to it. It sounds dirty - it sounds like the women should be working the field and the men should be relaxing on the porch smoking their pipe.
I'm not here to bear a ton of children to carry on my partner's genetic pool, nor am I here to serve him with my sister wives.
Reality and 2012 just isn't like that.
We three live in a common house, but are like best friends, with benefits. Whilst some of these benefits are sexual, it certainly isn't just about that. There are many other benefits, such as financial, cooking, cleaning, minding the pets and bills are all shared. This makes life just so much easier!
Or does it? Well yes and no. There are of course some things that we all need to work on. Having to deal with two (or more) partners could be more challenging, especially all living together in the same house. Everyone has their own ideas and beliefs, and it's often hard enough to learn to compromise with one person, but compromising with two (or more) people sure takes a lot more communication.
So I've lived like this for a while now, and I'm still learning things along the way. I guess mostly about myself, but also about communication, and living with more than one person in a meaningful way.
There's still much to learn, and I'm sure there are other types of units that call themselves polyamorous. Some do it honestly, and other's don't. Some live in a monogomous unit with polyamorous external releationships, and I'm sure that I will agree with some and disagree with others, just as some may disagree with the way I live my life, but that's what makes the world go round!
So that's about me for now... I'll add stuff as I go.
Thanks.
Miss3
Having a very high sex drive, it started as an affair with a collegue. We started making out anytime and anywhere..In the office, car outdoors..
My wife whom I told her latter was understanding and enjoyed my escapades, as erotic stories.
My lover however was confused and left as she was also married..
How do I keep going?
Looking at the blogs here I am glad to find people who are willing to explore and enjoy sex without getting jealous or possesive
Hi all,
We are a previously monogamous married couple that have decided to actively pursue a polygamous life.
After spending years establishing ourselves in a comfortable Australian suburban lifestyle, last year we decided to analyse and evaluate the direction of our lives. In every area – relationships, health, finances and faith – we identified our shared ideals and agreed to strive to achieve whatever that was.
Perhaps surprisingly, polygamy and in particular opening our relationship to another woman was an idea that came to the forefront of our thinking. We are Christians, and our faith has lead us to believe that humans need to live in a community that supports and nurtures each other. We want to live this ideal – and see a polygamous family as one natural outcome.
So we are seeking to develop friendships with females who are interested in exploring this ideal also.
We are both aged 28, and have 4 wonderful children all under 8. We currently live in the NSW Southern Highlands – 1.5 hours SW of Sydney, but are not tied down here. We want to live this lifestyle openly, which would be very difficult in the location we are in.
Living in an intentional community certainly appeals to us. A place where we could be more self-sufficient without losing too many of the mod-cons of modern living would be great.
We strive to be as active, fit and healthy as possible. Whether it be gardening in the backyard or camping in the bush we love to get outdoors and have fun as a family.
We would love to get to know more people involved in or considering long-term polyamorous relationships of any kind. Our email is seekingasecond@gmail.com.
We also hope to attend one of the polyamory meet-ups in Sydney soon.
Media Release
For immediate release.
Sydney, New South Wales—21 February 2012—Sydney's polyamorous community has resolved the conflict with Sydney Gay & Lesbian Mardi Gras over their entry in this year's Sydney Mardi Gras parade, one of the largest LGBTIQ events in the world.
Mardi Gras initially only allowed the poly group to participate as a 'supporter' entry, with a less prominent position and restrictions on displayed slogans. A Mardi Gras contact told one of the poly entry organisers that they were not an LGBTIQ group, and compared them to 'a bowling club'. Other long-time parade participants received similar correspondence, including sex worker activist group Scarlet Alliance.
Polyamorist social media erupted in a furore over the initial decision. For many polyamorists, it was particularly offensive because the parade's slogan is 'infinite love for all', and the logo is a pair of hearts arranged to form an infinity symbol—polyamorous groups worldwide have used similar symbology for decades.
Although the Sydney poly community is divided about whether polyamory is queer per se, most of last year's poly float participants identify as LGBTIQ. Even poly heterosexuals believe they have issues in common with LGBTIQ people. As one Facebook comment put it: 'when I had relatives threatening to punch me recently for my orientation, it wasn't for being L, G, B, T, or I, it was for being poly.'
On Saturday, poly group representatives Nina Melksham and Mik Scheper met with three Mardi Gras officers: the Board Chair, the Community Engagement Committee Chair and the Parade's producer. Melksham and Scheper explained that theirs was a queer entry and that they were happy to label it as such, and that it wasn't up to Mardi Gras to decide who is queer. Mardi Gras agreed, and welcomed the group's non-LGBTIQ-identifying partners and other supporters to take part in the entry as well. Both parties felt it would be beneficial for the poly community and greater LGBTIQ community to engage in more dialogue, and become more aware of each other.
Poly group members, heartened by the discussion and resolution, are once again enthusiastically at work on their parade entry, A Brighter Future for All Kinds of Love.
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For more information, contact media@polyamory.org.au
Well here we are, once again exploring the possibilties that poly can bring to enhance and deepen our relationship. When we first met we both had a number of lovers we were in relationship with, and we thought 'well here is another to be part of our life'....that was 6 years ago.
After meeting, supprisingly it became clear to us both, that monogamy was the path for us in the short term. Now we have two kids under 5, a house in the burbs on the Northern Beaches and a desire to create experiences and relationships that lie outside the normal parameters of suburban living.
Having taken the courageous step to acknowledge our appetites and desires outside of each other, and been through the talking and negotiating phase. We now are moving towards creating this new reality. We are looking to connect with another couple and or individuals, who are open to exporing possibilties with us.
Honest, open and clear communication is important for great relationships and we want to meet with others who want to live this too.
We also are looking forward to hanging out and connecting socially with members of the community, with like minded people, who understand where we are coming from and accept our desire to create something diferent in our relationships.
Steve & Jo
Hi all! Love that I'd found this site. I'm a 23 year old, female who currently lives on the Far North Coast of NSW. I am a single mother to a divine 18 month old little girl and I work as a nutritionist. I enjoy being fit and healthy, love to cook, run and swim.
I was raised a Mormon, spent a lot of time living in Utah as a child and saw families practice Polygamy happily. I always liked that idea of living as a community almost!
I'd love to get to know a Polyamory couple/family who are looking for another and would like to have children or more children in the future. As I said I'd like to get to know them, become friends and see where it goes!
Hi there we are looking for a third, We are in newcastle and looking for someone to come join us!
We have 3 kids under 7 and would love more!
We would be keen to Meet a a guy or girl to love!
Give us a messaege
Looking for MFM
Hello we are a married couple in Sydney south west. Him 48, Her 38. Just feeling our way into this and am very curious about the lifestyle.
Looking forward to meeting others and hopefully form friendships and more.
Anne & Stewart.
